QUOTE (mann777 @ May 28 2009, 12:56 AM)

Ok Agro... after a lot of research.. finally I have located the relay.. the relay is in the engine Compartment bay Fuse box. Now this Relay is located exactly behind the
CDS Fan Fuse(10A) & Towing Fuse (40A) . The relay is third relay if you looking towards the Engine Fuse box from the Right to left. Another identification to this relay it is exactly right in front of the Heater Relay ( bigger boxy looking "plus shape"). Let us know, after you finish the job

Thanks for the info. I found it! Little white square thingy. Denso Relay. Called the Lexus dealer for cost ($88), then to save money.... called the Toyota dealership ($98)?!? Non returnable item on this, just to be sure, I have a friend with a silver GX, gonna borrow his relay and see if thats the problem.
If that does the trick, gonna head to the Lexus dealership and pick up the relay (and one of those cute 2 piece chocolates they give you.
Thanks again for locating that for me.